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  Home –› Self Enhancement –› Self Empowering
   
 

Loneliness of the Heart

   

Being lonely is the worse feeling in the world. It depresses you to the ends of the earth and you just want to die from the heartbreak of being so alone. You have no one you can turn too in your hour of need. Why are you living?

Loneliness comes in all issues. Are you lonely because you have no siblings? Are you lonely because you have no boyfriend or girlfriend in your life? Are you lonely in your mind? Are you lonely when you come home from work and no one is there but your apartment?

I remembered the time I lived with a man. I thought it was the most precious avenue to pursue because I loved him, and wanted to be with him. Besides I wanted an apartment on the lake, and the only way I could afford it was to have him move in with me. We were able to share the rent which was a surprise for me.

After my divorce I had lived alone for a long time, so it was very difficult adjusting to having this other person in the same space with me. He was ten years older than me, so he had his clone and prehistoric kind of ways, and I had mine.

At first it was nice coming home to someone. We were in a common law marriage in our minds because Illinois didn't recognize such a reunion. If he decided to move out then there was nothing I could do to force him to keep his end of the bargain. We decided to live together for a year. I wasn't lonely anymore.

After about six months into the living together arrangement, he started to get on my last nerves. He would blast the television and when I was trying to get some sleep it was out of the question. My man retired, so at first he didn't work at all, so when I left for work, he was sleeping, and when I came home, he was sleeping. It got on my nerves because the house was literally a mess. What did he do all day? I had to come home from work and clean up his mess. This was definitely a strike.

The year was here, and I wanted my space back. He had gotten on my nerves until we just argued most of the time. After three more months after the year was up we broke the lease, and I moved out. I found my own apartment in the suburbs, and believe me it was worth it.

I live alone now, and I get lonely most often. I think someone is going to come into my house and kill me all the time. I hear noises too. It drives me crazy, but no one is blasting the television, and when I'm ready to go to bed, I have no loud television stopping me from closing my eyes.

The house is clean the way I left it. I miss him, but it's great living alone. I suggest you get married to the man before you move in with him. A common law marriage just doesn't work in my opinion. It didn't work for me. Now he's out of my life, and I'm lonely as hell. Sometimes my cell phone or home phone doesn't ring at all, and it drives me crazy. I don't have a lot of friends, but my daughter used to call me all the time, but she's busy with her life, of course.

I turn on the television just to have sound going on in my house because it makes me feel that someone is here with me. I know I need a life, but after work, I don't have much time for anything else. I'm usually exhausted with work, from the stress. I might turn on music and listen to it, but it only makes me sad because most of my songs are dusties, and they make me wish for a boyfriend.

What can a person do when they are feeling so lonely?

1. Maybe go to a movie, or out to dinner.
2. Try dating yourself.
3. Join a book club.
4. Visit the bookstore and mingle with people.
5. Go to a night club where you can meet people.
6. Mingle.
7. Spend more time with family.
8. Get a girlfriend.
9. Get a boyfriend.
10. Love yourself first.
11. Go to school where people are.
12. Get a hobby.
13. Read a good book.
14. Join a dating service.
15. Get a computer and interact on the internet with chat lines.
16. When invited to parties, go.
17. Go to the beach, and enjoy the water.

Loneliness can lead to depression and committing suicide because you don't feel that you're worthy of being around anyone, and you don't deserve to have some fun in your life.

Loneliness can also end up putting you in a mental institute because you end up talking to yourself, and it makes you crazy when you begin to answer yourself back. Read about the subject, and maybe talk to someone. Get a journal and write down your thoughts. The process of writing everything down helps me to come to terms with myself.

I love being by myself at intervals. I don't want anyone stopping by because I need the solitude and the peace. It gives me the serenity to be able to mediate and talk to God and enjoy my freedom. I don't regret living with someone, but I still love living alone, and I wouldn't trade my peacefulness for all the money in the world.

I also miss having someone around, but the issues just aren't worth it. When I lived with someone it educated me that I'm the type of person that needs to live alone. It's my character and personality trait.

I am only a human being and sometimes the walls can be closing down on me, and I want to run and hide. This is when I pick up a phone and call someone so I won't lose my mind. I'm not about to get depressed or take my own life because I'm a child of God, and a child of God doesn't dwell in the negative.

Loneliness is something like being addicted to drugs. If I could kick the habit of drugs, then I can make that step into putting more pressure on me to find a mate, or a friend I can talk too.

Remember everything can be fixed, and loneliness is just a word. In the real world as long as you have God, then you'll never be lonely ever again. It's only in your mental mind, and there's always someone around because God is there, and with God as your source, then you're never lonely. How could you be? (1,336)

Author: Carol Ann Culbert Johnson
 
Author Bio:
Carol Ann Culbert Johnson is a popular columnist. Carol likes to pen down articles about this area.
 
 
 

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